When we learn to forgive the child we once were
The child-self is the internal representation of the child we once were, the constellation of attitude, feelings, values, and perspective that were ours long ago, and that enjoys psychological immortality as a component of our total self. It is a subself, a subpersonality – a mind state that can be more or quite exclusively without necessarily being aware of doing so.
When we learn to forgive the child we once were for what he or she didn’t know, or couldn’t do, or couldn’t cope with, or felt or didn’t feel; when we understand and accept that, that child was struggling to survive the best way he or she could – then the adult-self is no longer in an adversarial relationship to the child-self. One part is not at war with another part. Our adult responses are more appropriate.
(NATHANIEL BRANDEN i boken “Reclaiming the Inner Child” sammanfattad av JEREMIAH ABRAMS)
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